| Pornography and Marriage |
| Tuesday, 10 November 2009 09:52 |
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I know a lot of you probably are thinking why...
this topic to talk about? I heard the other day that one out of three women are now looking at erotica or porn. I think that number sounds awfully high, but if this is true then it means that a lot of the women you know look at porn. I heard that the difference between erotica and porn is that it has different levels, maybe more tasteful, where as porn is just purley sexual acts. I really don't know. Some of you may not have a problem with it and that's your choice. I don't mean to sound judgmental. I personally do'nt think porn helps a marriage. I feel like it cheapens your relationship. I personally have no desire to look at other women using their bodies to make money. I don't care what kind of tips they think they can show me. If I wanted to see that, I could go downtown in any city you choose and watch it in real action! Most of these women are in a no win situation and the men that are making the films are making the real money! What in the world does this tell young girls? We want them to value themselves in one breath and in the next breath we are saying it's OK to basically sell our bodies as long as it's in a movie and is tasteful! What a mixed message! I understand wanting to spice up your marriage or wanting to learn new things to do but sometimes I feel as if we in today's society just look for excuses to make our choices and actions OK. I enjoy being with my husband and having sex just like the next woman but I think when you both tell each other what feels good, what you would like to do, and as long as you both feel comfortable doing it then go for it. Now I can hear what you're saying, "Well I feel good watching porn." I guess if you do, then it's your business but I really think it's degrading for women. We put a lot of emotion and feeling into making love. I would love to know what the women in those relationships really think and if it really is what they want. I don't think any woman wants their husband looking at other women naked. A woman wants to know that they are the only one their husband desires, whether they have perfect bodies or not. They want to be the one to please their husbands not having him think of some porn star! I feel like making love is the most sacred way of saying I love you in a marriage. You're at your most vunerable and your emotions are right out there. You are one with each other. I hope we as women really don't let the media and the porn industry convince us in this society that this is the way to go. I feel like marriages today have enough issues to deal. We don't need to bring more insecurity, self doubt, mistrust and trash into it. Keep your marriage sacred and treasure it! Treat it delicately. So... what do you think? Post your comments and tell us how you feel! |