| The Idea of Marriage |
| Thursday, 15 October 2009 09:11 |
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Over the last few months I've heard about a lot of marriages that have dissolved after just one year, two years, or even a few months, etc. And some of these marriages involved...
young people. These young people range from twenty one up to probably twenty seven. Last night one of my sons was telling me of one such situation. He was telling me "it just seems like they just don't want to be married anymore. The guy would like to try but not the girl. Seems like it kinda started when the guy went to the graveyard shift to try and make more money for them." I guess he made the comment that was a bad mistake. So they divorced after almost two years, decided they would be friends date around and see what happens and then maybe get back together. What the heck? They aren't sixteen, and just dating around! We're talking a marriage here! I think they need to to step up and grow up! There are way too many people in this society who don't take marriages seriously and think they can just walk away. No responsibility, no committment, and a whole lot of the ME attitude. I think these young people see what they think is love on TV and how its portrayed and think this is real life and how marriages really are. Lots of lust, parties, and fun. We as parents need to explain life and marriage to them. But then again, maybe that's part of the bigger problem, we aren't! Now marriage is fun, and you can have lust for each other I suppose, but I'd rather see it have geniune love, rather than just lust. I think many people are confused with the difference between Lust and Love. I think they think it's always supposed to be, sex,sex,sex, and candles,dinner out, parties, and no problems at all. And this is supposed to go on all the time. Then when real life sets in, it's not always a bed of roses. And suddenly, the marriage isn't all that fun anymore and off they go. What ever happened to growing up, putting the other person first and working it out or at least trying to? I feel like this is a sacred committment and one to fight for and take seriously. When I hear of these marriages just being thrown away, it really upsets me. I think of what they could have if they could both just get over themselves and try. Marriage is fun. It's an honor and a privelege to have someone love you with all their heart and soul and you return that love to them. There's nothing in the world to compare it to. I feel very blessed. |