Jan 17 2009
What We Say and How We Say It
The comment we sometimes hear, “It’s not what you said that bothers me, it’s how you said it”. Sometimes…
we are more short with people we love , (especially our spouses), than we are with anyone. I think this is true is because we know they love us and we feel we can get away with it. We think they won’t turn away from us because “they love me and will put up with my behavior.”
While this is usually true, for the most part we need to really be careful with what we say, how we say it and how we act towards our spouses. Never belittle your spouse or call them names. Once something is said, it’s very hard to erase it from our memories. We should remember to talk from our hearts, be respectful (not hurtful) and listen to each other’s point of view. Communication is a two way street, and it’s one of the most important ways to improve your marriage. Each person needs to know they’ve been heard.
