Feb 24 2009
Kids!
Yesterday my third son called me early in the moring saying he had taken the day off and wanted to know if…
I wnted to go to lunch. This was on Monday and Wed., Feb.25th its his 23rd B’day. So I told him, let’s just make this an early B’day lunch. When he calls to go to lunch or to come up it usually means he wants to talk about something wth me, (especially when he ask if it’s just he and I going).
So as we had lunch we began talking about something very important to him and some choices that he’s making for his future. He and I totally disagree about one of the choices he’s making. But I’m so grateful he and I have the kind of relationship where we can talk about it. He weighs what I have to say and I listen to his reasoning for the choices he seems determined to make. I’m fortunate to have the relationship that we have where we can disagree and not let it get into a heated argument.
I have the same type of close relationship with all of my sons and I’m grateful for that. I’ve always tried to be honest and real with them and I love them unconditionally. I think that’s the key to having a close relationship with your kids, to love them unconditionally! And no matter how much we want them to make good decisions it’s hard to sit back and see them making decisions that will probably end up, in the long run, bringing them sorrow and pain. I certainly understand the old saying that when they are young they step on your feet and when they are older they step on your heart. I’m sure you feel as i do, despite all the mistakes we feel they’re making or the things we may disagree on, the love we have for them never changes.
So tell us what you do to keep your relationships strong.
