Jun 13 2008
It Sure Is Different These Days
Dating and marriage is sure different than it was twenty years ago (or even 10 years ago). I was reading the other day where in today’s society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes “commitment” seem scary.
Today it seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. I feel like marriage is such a wonderful thing and people need to be more committed and take more responsbility for their marriages and their lives.
I was always taught that anything worth having and keeping did take alot of work and responsibilty. I feel like sometimes with all the doom and gloom about the statistics on marriages and divorce it makes people feel like why even get married? Then they go into a marriage with the idea that if it doesn’t work out it doesn’t matter. “I can just get divorced, no big deal!” It is a big deal!
After almost 30 years, this thing we call marriage does take work and responsibilty. We’ve had some bad days and arguments. I sometimes even want to kill him. But it’s also alot of fun, romantic, and it’s my safe place.
Not everything is perfect and sometimes there are major things to overcome but we have made the decision to make our marriage work. That’s a decision that you have to make for yourself. Marriage should be your safe place where you can just be yourself, where you realize this other person loves you for you. I do have to say that I feel like a marriage takes 100% commitment from the both of you. I realize we all tend to want to be selfish, but if we can remember to put our spouse’s feelings first then this will always go a long way towards your marriage lasting for a long time. Because putting your spouse first is selfless and we need more selflessness in marriages rather than selfishness.
Think about someone you know that has had a long and happy marriage. What secrets do they possess? The answer is that they all work hard at their relationships. They made a decision of choosing to love their spouse. They concentrate on what’s right in the marriage and what they can do to make the wrong parts right. Once again we’re talking about choosing and commitment.
